Genesis 2:24 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.”

The depth of this idea is usually overlooked. The intimation here is that in sex something occurs that is more than biological! Emotionally and spiritually, a bonding occurs that can’t be replicated in any other context!
In effect, there is a soul-tie or bond that is created. As the above love quote states, a part of you remains with me! This is as accurate as it is profound!

Is there a perfect body type? No! Perfect dolls for children, teen-aged glamor models for the young, and porn stars for the old, tell us a damaging lie! There is no perfect body.

Scripture tells us rather than pursuing the ideal body, we should all pursue the ideal character! A husband needs to fall in love with his wife (and her body!)—regardless of whether or not she fits the Barbie mold!

Barbie Trivia: every doll made since 1959 placed head to foot would circle the globe 7 times. Every second, 3 Barbies are purchased around the world.

Question: Husband's Work Makes Him Too Tired for Sex!
"My husband and I used to get together 3 times a week, and now for quite a while, his work is dictating how often we have sex. I really resent that. It's like he has this attitude "If we do [have sex]--fine. If I can't you'll have to wait until tomorrow" ... (which isn't always a guarantee).

Why won't he consistently put us first? His work is making him tired all the time! The majority of the time is 'Can we wait until tomorrow? I'm getting sick of that! Please help, I'm the one with the higher sex drive."

Answer:
We recommend that you and your husband have a heart to heart talk! Even better, as part of your talk, read some of our website's articles together. Here are just a few to start with:

Marriage Trouble Can Be Overcome
Soulmate Connection

Here are some important considerations for both of you to keep in mind:

• It has been proven that the less someone has sex, the less they desire it.
• Sex problems are one of the top two causes of marital breakdown. (Money is the other one!)
• Sex not only brings a physical release, but more importantly, it brings a wonderful and unique emotional closeness to the husband and wife.

You and your husband need to take a serious look at these questions:

1. Is our marriage relationship a priority in our lives? If yes, what are we doing to make it a priority?
2. What can we change about our life-style to give quality time to our relationship?
3. Am I (the wife) showing respect to my husband? Lack of respect and admiration from the wife to the husband will definitely reduce his desire for sex with her. (As frustrated as you may feel, try to understand how he feels. Be sure that your tone of voice conveys love and respect.)
4. Am I (the husband) demonstrating love to my wife by cherishing her and meeting her needs (sexual needs included)? If I don't meed her needs, who will? (Certainly you don't want another man to fill her needs!)

We wish you and your husband all the best!

Question from a Young Woman about Readiness for Marriage:
"I am ready to get married but am not in a relationship yet...I am praying but need direction on what and how I should pray about God arranging it all for me. Please kindly assist with guidelines."

Answer:
The Bible tells us in Matthew 6:33, “But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” In other words, the Lord knows you want and need a husband. Just make sure you make Jesus the most important person in your life, and what you need He will provide for you!

Although you have to trust the Lord to bring the right person into your life, you need to get involved with activities that will help you to have lots of friends—young men included. Usually attending church is a good place for this to happen.

Don’t lower your standards at all. Wait for the Lord to bring the right man into your life. If you were to read our story, you would find that the Lord brought our lives together! Check out our romance story.

Here is another good site that we recommend you read through!

All the best to you! If He can do it for us, He can do it for you!

This free, downloadable E-book is a frank discussion on pornography and masturbation. Because this little book is written to men in a very blunt and open fashion, the author requests that women not read it before their husbands read it first.

“I have seen the secret sins of pornography and masturbation paralyze many men with shame, guilt, and embarrassment. I have written this booklet to discuss these matters in a manner that is both theological and practical, in hopes of contributing to each of you experiencing the power of the gospel to forgive, renew, and empower you by grace.”

(Visit this site to download your own free copy.)

"Sex is like superglue for humans." This book helps men and women recognize they can be set free from the unhealthy sexual bonds from past relationships.

I (Carrie) have just started reading Barbara's book and am praying that I will gain a greater understanding of the sexual dysfunction many men and women experience because of multiple sexual partners in their past, and to know the way to redemption and freedom from the invisible but very real bonds of those relationships.

Visit Barbara's site for more info.

For one step of our recently published "7 Day Sex Challenge" marriage course, we have couples work through an adaptation of the Biblical references: Ephesians 5:21-35, and 1 Corinthians 13. The Scripture in Ephesians is about husbands loving wives and wives respecting husbands. The Corinthians chapter is about God’s love.

During the 7 Day Sex Challenge, husbands and wives read the following declarations to one other every day for 7 days. Even just this part of the course is meaningful! Why don't you and your spouse commit to saying these significant statements to one another every day for a week? You may be surprised at the intimacy these words alone can build.

Husbands, read this to your wife while holding her hand and looking into her eyes.

I recognize that God’s design for me is to love you in the same way Jesus loved the church. I need to love you more than I love myself. The love that God describes is:

patient and kind
not boastful or envious
not jealous or rude
does not demand its own way
is not irritable
seeks to cherish

With the Lord helping me, I will demonstrate this type of love today!

(Don’t forget to kiss her gently!)

Wives, read this to your husband while holding his hand and looking into his eyes.

I recognize that God’s design for me is to respect you in the same way the church honors Jesus. I need to love you more than myself. Honoring you in this way involves:

encouraging, not complaining
helping, not challenging
respecting, not demeaning
trusting, not nagging
giving, not withholding
submitting, not controlling

With the Lord helping me, I will demonstrate this type of honor today!

(Don’t forget to kiss him gently!)

Why not try the entire challenge! Check out 7 Day Sex Challenge.

Sincerely,

Jim and Carrie

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