Recently, I (Jim) began a men’s small group based on the 10 week curriculum “The Valiant Man” by Dr. Allan Meyer. This is the best course I have ever participated in or am aware of to help men gain sexual freedom and purity. Each of the sessions includes a 45 minute video presentation by Dr. Meyer (you’ll love his Aussie accent!), followed by group questions with discussion and directed daily journaling throughout the week.

For individuals, churches, or men’s groups serious about discipleship, The Valiant Man is the best!

The negative consequences of porn have reached pandemic proportion in our society. Porn results in a man’s pleasure centers in the brain being activated as multiple chemical messages are dumped into the blood stream (just as with drug use) resulting in, over time:

• Mental, emotional, and physiological arousal.
• Incredibly powerful addictive patterns established by the brain.
• Mental associations established between the pleasure centres in the brain and the visual, mental, and emotional cues that caused the stimulation.
• Preference to selfish auto-eroticism over healthy marital sex. Just as snacking constantly on junk food will kill a man’s appetite for dinner—so participating in “junk sex” (porn) a man’s desire for sex with his wife will decrease. Of course, the shame and guilt experienced compounds this decreasing desire for marital sex.

Dangers of Pornography

Breaking Free from Pornography

Wives, please educate yourselves. Your husbands face an incredibly intense battle for moral purity! Viewing porn may not an addictive behaviour for every man; it is, however, an issue for every man.

Below is an excerpt from an article we read on CNN taken from Health.com. We thought it was too good not to pass on to our readers! We’ve included the first half of the entire article (the first fifteen days) here. We'll include the next 15 days in our next eZine!

• Day 1: Embrace the Quickie
  Sure, long and slow is lovely, but there’s something to be said for the five-minute romp. When time is scarce, shoot for an unusual location—like the shower or kitchen—and you may find yourself more turned on than usual.
• Day 2: Put Down the French Fries
  Obesity can alter your hormonal balance, possibly dampening desire. And clogged arteries contribute to conditions like erectile dysfunction.
• Day 3: Run With It
  Cardiovascular activity—whether it’s a jog or an aerobics class—increases circulation, and therefore blood flow to the genitals, making sex more pleasurable for you and your mate.
• Day 4: Phone It In
  Traveling for work? Phone sex is a great way to keep things steamy, even if you’re miles apart.
• Day 5: Stay Fun
  If you’re trying to get pregnant, it’s easy to forget that sex wasn’t always so much work. Doing everything but—giving a massage, focusing on touch—can help make it fun again.
• Day 6: Relax
  Overworked, exhausted—and that’s before you leave the house in the morning. Setting aside just a little bit of relaxation time with your partner can bring back the fireworks.
• Day 7: Ditch Routine
  What do a towel, phone messages, and a fantasy jar have in common? They can all help you spice up an otherwise lackluster love life.
• Day 8: Understand Your Orgasm
  Find out the different ways you and your partner can climax, and why the G-spot may be hot—or not.
• Day 9: Just say “Ommm…”
  Tired of another dinner and a movie? Try a yoga date. Not only will a class get your blood flowing, but you’ll also improve flexibility. Done regularly, both will lead to better sex. [Wait a second… We included this suggestion because we’re quoting the article, but though we endorse exercise that helps improve flexibility, we do not endorse the spiritual aspects of yoga.]
• Day 10: Eat Food That Gets You in the Mood
  No, you don’t have to slurp oysters or dip strawberries in chocolate—though those things work too. Check out some unexpected aphrodisiacs.
• Day 11: Put on the Brakes
  If your partner treats the bedroom like the Indy 500, try these tricks to get him or her to hang in there a little longer. Hey, you have needs too! Check out this article.
• Day 12: Talk it Out
  Want an Rx for passion? Overcome your emotional hang-ups and tell your partner what you really want in the sack.
• Day 13: Synchronize
  Different schedules, different levels of desire, different needs—it’s a wonder you and your partner ever got together at all! Try these three tips to reconnect. Once you’re on the same page, the sex will come easier. Read this article for more info.
• Day 14: Get Closer with Counseling
  Most people think that marriage counseling is only for couples with major issues, but the truth is, it can help anyone grow closer—in and out of the bedroom.
• Day 15: Take it Off
  And we’re not talking about your clothes. Even a 5-pound weight loss can jump-start your sex drive!

Why don't you and your spouse go over this list and choose a few suggestions to work on together over the next few weeks?!