We enjoy keeping in touch with you while providing simple tips and advice for you and your partner to use. Enjoy!

These books are fun to read while filled with nuggets of truth!

A lucky mom won a free copy of the "What Happy Parents Do" book when Carrie made a presentation at the local MOPS (Mothers of Pre-Schoolers) group. We also gave a copy of this book to our son and daughter-in-law as a gift in honor of them expecting their first baby next month!

Question about how to teach kids the pitfalls of pornography: I have two kids… daughter 12, and son 9, from my first marriage who live in [another country] with my ex-wife. I see them for a few weeks twice a year and phone them regularly. I feel I need to talk/educate them about sex and warn them about the pitfalls of pornography, etc. Do you perhaps know how I should go about it? My current wife is uncomfortable talking about it with my daughter, and my ex-wife is not in a place right now where I can discuss this kind of education with her.

Do you perhaps have a suggestion as to how I can broach the subject, or perhaps know of a good internet site that I can use?

Answer: Good for you in wanting to teach your children about the damage that pornography causes! Here is an excellent site that gives some good advice about how to begin a conversation like this with your children. This page gives a lot of good information about when, how, and what to talk with your kids about.

Focus on the Family may be a good resource for you as well.

Can we make one other suggestion? Use a webcam on your computer along with one on your children’s computer so that you can discuss sensitive topics like the dangers of porn “face to face”.

Question about infrequent sex: My wife and I have been married for 24 years now. And we have 5 children together. I am 54 years old and still have a strong desire for intimate sex but I'm lucky to get it more than once a month. My wife never goes to bed when I do (usually around 8 pm) and always has an excuse for not doing so. I am really sorry to say that I have had to resort to masturbation just to release some of the need I am not getting. I consider myself to be a good lover and have always brought my wife to orgasm. Don't know what can be done to increase her desire. I am not about to beg for sex. Is this a wide spread problem in the Christian community or am I just a rarity. Please help me?

Answer: First of all, your experience is common to many married couples; statistics tell us 40 million Americans are in a "sexless marriage"! However, we think you need to be confident that your situation can drastically change with your wife, and that the best years of your marriage can still be ahead of you!

Secondly, there is a distinction between sex and intimacy--and it is intimacy you must pursue. The wonderful by-product of that pursuit will also be great sex! Sex is actually just the tip of the intimacy iceberg. See the article "The Sexless Marriage" for an explanation.

Thirdly, when you focus on meeting your wife's needs, rather than your own, you will find the atmosphere changes! If you and your wife can decide to work together to improve your marriage--start by reading articles together! For example, read the article "Successful Marriage Tips for Couples" together--each week take one of the suggestions and apply it to your marriage.

Fourthly, to expand on what we've just mentioned, wonders can happen when you and your wife read articles from www.the-intimate-couple.com together: it promotes communication--and that will be the key to change in your relationship.

Lastly, go on our website and buy our downloadable E-book--the "7 Day Sex Challenge"--it will change your marriage!

Sincerely,

Jim and Carrie