Are We Compatible?"Are we compatible?" is one of the key questions to ask before marriage. Relationships information is incomplete without talking about compatibility. In a romantic relationship, values, perspective, and life goals determine a couple’s compatibility. Since relationship break up will most often be a result of compatibility issues, all pre marriage counseling needs to examine the core values couples hold. Contrary to what you may hear other places, compatibility has little to do with sex!
Compatibility involves:
Conflicting values, standards, morals, ethics, and ideals with your partner makes compatibility impossible. For example, if you and your partner have major differences in deeply held religious convictions, then compatibility reaches an impasse. Compatibility is vital for romance to have a chance. You don’t have to agree on everything; but you have to feel safe to be yourself, holding your own values and ideals without threat: this is how trust is built. Romantic intimacy develops as you can be completely open and honest within this context of trust and mutual acceptance. Romance finds its eventual fulfillment in marriage: the ultimate expression of commitment to your romance. This deepened commitment and the sexual component of the relationship can lead to authentic sexual intimacy—compatibility at its best! Believe me when I say this experience is absolutely awesome!
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