Can I Have My Dream Marriage?
Yes and No.
Needs Are Met by One Another!
What Does Carrie’s Dream Marriage Look Like?
Carrie needs to feel cherished, valued, and honoured. She is looking forward to growing old together with me (Jim), and not allowing the busyness of life to crowd out those precious, special moments between us. She also loves the idea of my constant admiration of her poise and beauty—-both the internal and external kind of beauty!
What Does Jim’s Dream Marriage Look Like?
Jim connects emotionally with Carrie through sex—and so, sexual intimacy is part of what he longs for in his relationship with Carrie! Though he doesn’t like to talk about it, he also needs to be respected and honored.
Joy and Loving Rituals Belong in a Great Marital Relationship!
Loving rituals are those little peculiarities expressed between husband and wife—unique to them—that says, “I love you, you’re special!”
The book, “What Happy Couples Do”, by Bruess and Kudak tells one story of a husband and wife who race to be the first to write some secret, sexy message with a toothpick on the smooth surface of each new jar of peanut butter!
Forgiveness Marks a Happy, Healthy Marriage!
Over 7,500 people (as at December 2012) have responded to our Intimacy Survey (have you?) and you would be amazed how many couples tell us that their spouse is holding a grudge (even after they've asked for forgiveness), and they don’t feel forgiven about something in their past.
Ruth Bell Graham said, "A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers."