Girlfriend Expects Too Much?

"What do you advise a woman who says that before she gets married to a man he should earn more than she does and should cater for all house bills? What kind of Christian mentality is this? Please advise.

What scripture can I use to advise this woman?"


Well, I’m pretty close to your girlfriend’s opinion on this one!

Although a husband does not necessarily need to earn more than his wife, he does have to demonstrate responsibility in providing for his wife and family. Read 1 Timothy 5:8, "But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel."

I believe your girlfriend’s concern for security is at the core of her comments. Security is more of a felt need for women than for men and that’s why it is vital that you learn what the needs of a wife really are.

I would also suggest you read up on pre-marriage at our website’s Pre-Marriage section.

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Apr 23, 2010
Marriage is a UNION!!!
by: Samantha

Although I agree with everything in the "answer", I noticed one thing. So many times I have heard things from couples about "her" money and "his" money. Well guess what? "The two shall become as one". Marriage IS a union! There IS NO ownership to money, it is "theirs"! Security should come in seeing what the combined assets are, not his or hers!

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