Horny?

by Rob
(Victoria)

How can a husband be horny just for wife but stay away from other lusty stuff?

Our Answer:
Actually, the more a husband stays away from lusting after other women, the more he will automatically have stronger sexual feelings for his wife. Lusting is a term that usually has bad feelings attached to it, because Jesus said, "However looks on a woman to lust after her commits adultery in his heart". However, lusting after your wife (a strong desire for your wife or to have sex with your wife) is totally OK!

In the same way that eating "junk food" before dinner will decrease your appetite for food, so a man will have decreased sexual hunger for his wife if he has "junk sex". By saying "junk sex" we mean lusting after other women. When a man can exercise sexual discipline and not lust after anyone except his wife, then his sexual desire for her will tend to remain strong!

A helpful way to exercise that discipline can be found here on our site. Scroll down the page until you see the title "What do you do with lustful thoughts?" The 3-Step discipline will be a helpful response whenever you are tempted with lustful thoughts towards another woman.

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Aug 07, 2012
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by: Anonymous

It depends on your interpretation of "lust". Lust usually means the selfish desire for one's self. So, NO, it is not OK to "lust" after your wife. It is OK to desire to be close, to have a connection, to express your love sexually with your wife. But you should not have only selfish, self driven, "entitlement" thoughts about sex. Sex with your wife should be about love, honor, respect and cherishing her as a human being.

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