husband less interested in sex than earlier in marriage

by Dawn

My husband and I have been happily married for 13 years, and still are, but lately he just isn't interested in sex like he used to be. He used to want to make love almost every day and now it's maybe once a week. He has had prostate trouble which is now better, but I can't initiate sex at all anymore.... I have talked to him about this and he kindly says it's just me being insecure but something is different. He is an amazing husband and father and I love him with all my heart and I know that he loves me. I just don't understand what has changed.

Our Answer:
Unquestionably, things happened to change a man's sex drive. There will be medical issues--like his prostrate problem--these have an effect, but we have no expertise in these areas and can make no comment. It may be wise to consult with your doctor.

There are other reasons that a man's sex drive might diminish. Here are just a few:

1. increasing age


2. stress and emotional struggles


3. pornography (or if not porn, then sexual distractions caused by responding to a sexualized environment)


4. decreasing emotional connection


5. reduced intimacy spiritually, emotionally, and intellectually can result in a decrease in the sexual component of intimacy.

In an attempt to address your concerns, you need to have open, honest conversations with one another. If there seems to be no answers forthcoming, we suggest you talk about taking a do-it-yourself 7 day intimacy course! The 7 Day Sex Challenge is an intense 7 day course addressing all areas of intimacy. This course is a wonderful way to re-ignite your sex life, and catapult you into a deeper relationship!

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