Kissing Not a Turn On
Like it Used to Be
Question:[ Kissing not a turn on ]
I used to get turned on with just kissing but now I don't anymore. Is it okay for me and my husband to read erotic literature before we have sex to get me going?
Answer
Not getting turned on by just kissing? It sounds like your sex life needs more creativity. Try new things! Keep romance alive in your relationship! Add "spice" to your sexual foreplay! Focus on pleasing your husband. You may be surprised at how "turned on" you become when you're focusing on turning him on rather than yourself!Here are a few ideas that are sure to arouse your husband but will help your own sexual desire increase too! - meet him at the door in something sexy (or if you’ve got kids, surprise him this way in the privacy of your bedroom)
- join him in the shower
- whisper in his ear that you’re not wearing any panties
- leave him notes (in his briefcase, in his lunch-bag, in his jacket pocket, on the car seat) about what you want to do to him later on and what you want him to do to you
- leave a sexy message on his private voice mail
- spend a long time kissing, first gently and then more passionately; keep your clothes on for a while and then start to undress yourself
- make up your own fantasy story about the two of you and share it with him
- give him a sensual massage
- whisper in his ear that you love him and desire him
- initiate sex in a new location (be sure it’s private though!)
- experiment with a new position
- ask him what new thing he’d like to try during sex
Kissing Not a Turn On? Take the initiative, be passionate, and have fun! Here's an article that discusses 9 ways to increase your "turn on" to sex: - You Initiate Sex
- Prepare Yourself All Day
- Passionate Kissing
- Give Enough Time for Sex
- Keep Your Thoughts on Topic!
- Be Aggressive
- Try Something New
- Treat Your Husband
- Educate Yourself
May we also suggest you and your husband try our "7 Day Sex Challenge" to put the sizzle back in your relationship! Check it out here. We are cautious with erotic literature: as our article Christian Views on Sex indicates, there are biblical principles that need to be followed--one of them is that you should not be sexually excited about anyone except your husband or wife. However, you might like to try this website regarding erotic literature about your own spouse!
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