Free Marriage Quiz!

We encourage couples to use tools such as a marriage quiz, survey, or questionnaire to help them increase communication in their relationships. Using an online questionnaire allows couples to answer questions in the privacy of their own home taking as much time as they need. Most online surveys can be completed anonymously or downloaded and printed for the user to read!

What are the benefits of taking a marriage quiz?

  1. A survey provides a starting point for conversation on topics that could otherwise be difficult to begin talking about.
  2. A good quality questionnaire will usually make you more aware not only of the areas of your relationship that need work, but will also heighten those areas that are working well! We should always have something positive to share.
  3. Couples who are hesitant to discuss areas of their relationship that they are disappointed in can use the completed survey to share those concerns with their spouses.
  4. A questionnaire can be a safe way to let your spouse know how you view and experience your relationship. Your spouse is able to view your answers (either on the computer screen or a printed, downloaded copy of the finished quiz). Your answers will be clear, without hurtful accusations, or unloving tones of voice.

One area of the marriage relationship that many couples find challenging to discuss is the important area of sexual intimacy. This is especially difficult if either spouse is experiencing disappointment with the sexual relationship they have with their husband or wife. Many men and women have a lack of sexual confidence and so, understandably, spouses are very cautious to share about this important area of the marriage relationship. As well, we must be careful in how we convey our frustrations or disappointments with our spouse. Remember, you may not feel sexually confident, but most likely, neither does your spouse! When couples make themselves vulnerable, it is important that love and care is demonstrated for one another. A relationship questionnaire or survey can be a wonderful tool to facilitate those necessary but potentially hurtful conversations safely.

Are you or your spouse looking for a simple marriage quiz? Our "Intimacy Survey" below has been gaining popularity since we first made it available in early 2008 here on our website and at marriage seminars.

  • it only takes a few minutes to complete
  • the survey can be completed anonymously
  • each spouse should complete their own quiz

Whether your marriage needs help or is doing well, why not take the survey? Share the completed survey with your spouse and let them know of your ongoing commitment to making your relationship better!

Intimacy Survey for Married Couples

Fields followed by an * must be filled in.
E-Mail Address*
Your Gender*
How long have you been married?*
Less than 5 years
Between 5 and 10 years
Between 10 and 15 years
Between 15 and 20 years
Between 20 and 30 years
Between 30 and 40 years
More than 40 years
Spiritual Intimacy (check all that apply)
I pray regularly throughout the day for my spouse.
We pray together regularly.
We read/study the Bible together.
I am comfortable sharing with my spouse what God is teaching me.
For Wives only: My husband actively leads me spiritually.
For Husbands only: I take my role as spiritual leader of my wife/family seriously.
During times of conflict, we pray together inviting God to help each of us change.
Intellectual Intimacy (check all that apply)
I pay attention to my spouse’s interests and hobbies.
I feel that my spouse supports me in my personal interests.
My spouse and I try to learn more about what we believe and think on lot of topics.
My spouse's choice of interests and hobbies make me feel proud of him/her.
I feel free to express my opinion even though my spouse may disagree with me.
We agree on what our core values and beliefs are.
I can fully trust my spouse and allow myself to be vulnerable with him/her.
Emotional Intimacy (check all that apply)
I feel cherished and cared for by my spouse.
My spouse and I enjoy romancing one another.
We say “I love you” to one another often.
My spouse and I spend quality time together almost every day.
I enjoy spending time in conversation with my spouse.
My spouse is my very best friend!
We have learned how to handle conflict with one another.
My spouse rarely interrupts me when I’m talking.
We still hold hands in public.
My spouse surprises me with loveletters, small gifts, and other expressions of romance.
For Wives: my husband usually remembers special dates (my birthday, our anniversary)
For Husbands: I rarely forget to celebrate special dates.
My spouse expresses his/her appreciation of me and what I do.
We are so busy that we only have time to “connect” at the end of the day.
My spouse is still holding a grudge even though I’ve asked for forgiveness.
I find I get distracted easily when my spouse is talking with me.
We almost never go out for a “date night” or a “weekend getaway” just with the two of us.
My spouse spends more time in front of the TV than communicating with me.
Sexual Intimacy (check all that apply)
My spouse and I are comfortable talking about sex.
We laugh and have fun during sex.
My spouse and I know where to find the female g-spot.
Our sex life has improved in the past year.
My spouse and I kiss more now than in our first year of marriage.
I initiate sex at least 25% of the time.
We try to include variety in our sexual relationship.
I feel my sexual needs are being met.
I’ve told my spouse what feels good and what I enjoy in our sexual relationship.
My spouse is not as interested in sex as I am.
I struggle with pornography.
Sometimes I find sex boring.
There are new things I’d like us to try when having sex, but I’m too embarrassed to ask my spouse.
For Wives only: I rarely experience orgasm.
For Husbands only: My wife has difficulty reaching orgasm.
We are so busy that sex is usually rushed.
I am often too tired for sex.
Sometimes I don’t feel sexually confident with my spouse.
On average, how often do you and your spouse have sex?
“Always”: at least once a day
Often: several times per week
Regularly: once per week
Occasionally: 2 or 3 times per month
Seldom: less than once per month
Rarely: “we go without sex for months at a time”
Select the word that best describes your sexual relationship with your spouse.
Non-Existent 0/10
Disappointing 1/10
Boring 2/10
Take it or Leave it 3/10
Sub-Standard 4/10
Adequate 5/10
Improving 6/10
Pleasurable 7/10
In a Good Place 8/10
Almost Perfect 9/10
In Heaven! 10/10

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