Do You Recommend Setting Dates for Sex?

Question
"As our lives are so scheduled, do you recommend setting dates for a romantic encounter? In other words you and your spouse both know that i.e. Thursday night is romance night. Do you feel that setting a date will heighten the moment or take away from it?"

Answer
You're right, spontaneous romance and sex is fun! But "scheduled sex" can also be!

First of all, because you and I understand the importance of sex in our marriage relationships, we choose to prioritize it. If life is so busy, why shouldn't we make sure time is given to intimacy in our marriages? Let's take control of our hectic lifestyles and actually make a date to have sex with our spouses. Mark those "dates" in our planners and then, make certain nothing allows us to cancel them.If you find scheduling sex into your life detracts from the experience, teach yourself how to counteract the negative feelings you may have about putting sex on your calendar.

• Keep your thoughts positive as it comes to mind that you have that "special date" with your spouse that night.
• Smile as you think about how you will spend your evening.
• Call or email your spouse letting them know that you're looking forward to being with them later in the day.
• Take a few extra minutes to make your bedroom setting special. Pick up a scented candle or two during the day to use at night.
• Ladies, take time during the day to plan which negligee you will wear and which perfume you will use for your husband.
• Men, pick up a gift (flowers, chocolate, ... something you know your wife will feel special getting from you) to surprise her with when you get home... or why not have the gift delivered to your wife earlier in the day with a note letting her know that you can hardly wait to see her later!

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