She doesn't like me touching her

by Peter
(Australia)

Why doesn't my partner like me to touch her breasts or vagina at all any time?

Our Answer:
Rather than becoming upset, it's necessary that you exercise patience, and unconditional love here. There is a reason for her feelings!

First of all, though, we need some clarity: when you say partner--do you mean wife? Because if you aren't married yet, then you shouldn't be touching her breasts or vagina anyway--and she is totally right by not wanting you to touch her!

If you are married, then it sounds like may have been sexual abuse issues from the past--and you and your wife need to attend Christian counseling together. This is important!

As difficult as it may seem to be, practicing self-sacrificial love involves focusing on your wife: make her feel special, cherished, and loved. Don't focus on what you don't have--focus on what you do have! Express gratitude for her love, etc., and begin praying for the Lord to bless her in new, rich ways! Your love will help to set her free from fears and abuses from the past!

In addition to counseling, we suggest that both of you read some articles together, addressing the issues related to lack of interest and lack of confidence in sex:

Lost Interest in Sex

No Interest in Sex

Sexual Confidence

Lack of Sexual Confidence