Understanding Women in RelationshipsMen commonly complain that understanding women in relationships is well-nigh impossible. Have you seen the book entitled What Men Know About Women? When you open the book, you find all the pages are completely blank!
Guys, there is hope! Here are three keys to help in understanding women in relationships:
Accept that your wife is wired differently; don’t complain about it, or wish her different: leave the differences and capitalize on them. Viva la difference!
I have wasted time wishing my wife was the same as me—in regards to sexual desire, for example. What I have learned is that these differences are actually designed by God to strengthen marriages, as husband and wife focus on meeting each other’s needs—and not just focus on their own. Open communication, honesty, and the desire to meet your spouse’s needs enhances interdependence and love.
A man’s natural desires and tendencies are different than a woman’s—marriage, then, becomes the most unique inter-connecting and fulfilling relationship on the planet—when we follow God’s design.
Women are motivated by:
Obviously, I am generalizing. But the pattern holds true.
Imagine four couples meet at a restaurant for dinner. Someone stands and says, “I have to visit the restroom. Anyone else want to come?” If a woman says this, it’s considered normal. If one of the guys were to say it, we’d raise our eyebrows and think he was weird!! Why? Men and women have separate and distinct, yet recognizable motivations.
Most women have conversation as a top need. Men, on the other hand, don’t have to talk to be happy.
Most men identify sex as one of their top needs. Most women list sex as need #23, just below gardening!
… in this order, usually!
In Summary, Remember These Key Points: