What is going "too far" physically?

How does a couple know what is "too far" in their premarital physical contact? How much of "too far" includes the mental side of the physical equation? Is there a difference of touching a particular part of a partner’s body with just the mental intention of giving a gesture of love vs. touching that same part with the idea of further stimulation in mind?

Our Answer: The question you have to ask yourself isn’t really, “When have I crossed over the line of propriety -- whether by physical actions or mental thoughts?” The question should be, “What is going to help me and my fiancé develop closeness without violating our consciences?”
Physical touch, kissing, petting, caressing, and foreplay were meant to be the natural progression to sexual intercourse. We weren’t designed to start and stop! We were designed to start and keep going!!

Don’t engage in behaviours that make it almost impossible to stop.

Practically speaking

• no oral sex


• don’t touch or stimulate each other’s genitals


• keep your clothes on


• reduce your sexual contact—and...


• increase your non-sexual contact so that your fiancé is feeling cherished.