withholding sex from your husband
Should a Christian wife withhold sex until her husband does something she wants him to do, and after he does that task, she will have sex with him?
What makes us think this is the husband talking!?
Sex should never be used as a bargaining tool, withheld as a punishment, given only as a reward, or used as a tool of manipulation.
That being said, however, it would be foolish to think that a husband's actions would not affect a wife's desire to please her husband sexually. When a husband is selfish, and ignorant of his wife's needs and desires, her motivation to please him may be nil. During times like this, it would be wise to take to heart the Bible's reminder, when a husband "loves his wife, he loves himself!"
In essence, attitude is everything! If a husband has an attitude of sacrificial giving and service toward his wife and, in turn, his wife has an attitude of honouring and respecting her husband, then sex between them will focus on pleasing the "other".
We happen to believe that the husband is most often the key to success in many marriages. By this we mean when a husband takes his place in the relationship as the leader who will extend self-sacrificial love to his bride, then his wife will respond to his lead with greater physical enthusiasm when she knows she is cherished and valued.